I’m lookin’ for a lady!
I want to be a good husband to my future wife and she a good wife to me. I want to start a family with her, become a father, and raise kids to be independent and good.
My home and lifestyle reflect my values. Top ones are freedom, honesty, humility, respect, self-development, reverence before God, courage, forgiveness, purposefulness, and self-discipline. I am sincere, grounded, fit, conscientious, spiritual, a critical thinker, open-minded, introspective, intelligent, a respectful listener, and appreciative.
I’m a medical doctor boarded in Family Medicine. Some say “cradle-to-grave medicine.” I say diaper-to-diaper!
I’m virile. And I know what to do with a woman’s body.
My kitchen serves a wintertime roasted mushroom soup, a summer cannellini bean salad, and dal for all seasons. One look at my pantry and you might think I’m from Uttar Pradesh.
I’ve had adventures on six continents. I almost went to jail in Syria! I go camping where there are no signs of civilization, and I’ve done all of the following at least once: SCUBA dive, feed sharks, surf, skydive, swim with dolphins, and move by myself to foreign countries where I don’t know the language, have no contacts, and then live there for years. I love my motorcycle.
The loving, stable family I come from does video chats all the time. We spend holidays together. We’re there for each other.
Being in nature and being physical keeps me grounded. I hike, climb in gyms, camp under the Milky Way, and target shoot. I carry open and concealed.
Being cerebral keeps me cognitively satiated. I read nonfiction. I’m doing a post-grad course about the Shroud of Turin right now.
Being unserious keeps me lighthearted. I laugh at fart jokes, sometimes produce the fart that makes the joke, and was Julius Caesar at Halloween parties this year. ROMA VICTOR!!***
The masculine-feminine complement elevates man and woman when the husband chooses the direction and the wife makes the journey beautiful. I want to create a marriage in which I am dependable to her, loyal to her, dedicated to her, and dedicated to a healthy relationship in which she shows me the same.
Physical affection with the woman I love is vital connection to me. A must-have.
From previous relationships, I’ve learned a few things:
I’ve learned that men need respect more than love. And I’ve observed that women need love more than respect. But we all need some of both.
I’ve learned I should not run away from relationship conflict, but it’s okay to explain to her that I need time before responding.
The foundation of a harmonious life partnership is agreement. Especially on the big things like finances, kids, and values.
I’ve learned I am responsible for my needs and she is responsible for her needs, even in relationship. But we are not just two people merely coexisting with individual needs. Our shared commitments require check-ins and upkeep, too. We help each other get our needs met, which is why…(see next point!)
In relationship, each of us is responsible for saying our needs out loud and not relying on assumptions. I have learned that despite best intentions, assumptions that cause hurt will inevitably drive some choices. It’s going to happen as sure as the sun will rise tomorrow. And I need to be forgiving of her for that. I expect the same in return when I also make wrong assumptions in good faith.
I’ve learned to speak up promptly when something is bugging me.
I’ve learned to trust my intuition.
I’ve learned that the woman’s gift of diffuse awareness complements the man’s gift of laser focus. Competition between the man and the woman is dumb. (Unless it’s game night. Bring your best or prepare for destruction!) The corrosive, malnourished competition exalted by feminism is dumb.
My name is John. Use the form below to find out what’s next between us. My number is (701) 215 3378. I’m also on Instagram here.
***For the nerds: Actually, it’s “Roma Victoria” or “Roma Victrix,” because Roma is feminine in Latin… Sorry, Russell Crowe!